What would it be like for your child to be loved for who they are?
I'm not here to tell you that you aren't enough. Our society, media, the parenting industry, and probably your inner voice already tell you that plenty.
I'm here to tell you... You ARE Enough. Truly, you are.
And the reason you haven’t fully embraced that truth yet is because you're carrying some old beliefs and patterns around with you that are preventing you from owning your enough-ness.
But you already knew that, didn't you?
You're here because you're ready for a change. You're ready TO change.
You are in the right place.
Those beliefs and old patterns that are holding you back – you created them out of necessity at different times in your life. It's time to let them go, so you can replace them with NEW beliefs. Expansive, empowering, supportive beliefs.
The kinds of beliefs that, when you put your head down on your pillow to (hopefully!) sleep, bring a smile to your face.
The kinds of beliefs that sound like a sweet melody at the end of a long day (or night, as it were).
The kinds of beliefs that feel like strength and confidence in your bones, even when you've made more mistakes than you'd care to count that day.
Mistakes WILL happen. And you don't need to ruminate on them and beat yourself up about them for hours, days, or weeks on end. With your new beliefs, you'll know that you can acknowledge the mistake, learn from it, clean it up, and move on with your days from a centered and wiser place.
Learning is the key.
There's no such thing as a "perfect" parent. Your job is to teach your child how to thrive in all of their perfect imperfection by showing them how you thrive in your imperfection.
How you pick yourself up after you fall. How you engage with ALL of your feelings. How you take care of yourself. How you talk to yourself. How you talk to others. How you apologize and own up to your mistakes. How you learn. How you make decisions from a place of trust & clarity. How you cultivated that trust & clarity to begin with. How you believe in & love yourself. How you support others.
Because while, sure, there are feeding and diapering and sleeping choices to be made, the more important choice is to raise a resilient, reflective, resourceful adult. And in order to do that, you must be resilient, resourceful, and reflective yourself.
That's where I come in. I help you turn challenging moments into opportunities to turn inward and understand your self better – why you're thinking about and feeling the way you are in any given circumstance or event.
Instead of feeling reactive and blaming your child for your frustration, you look within to explore where in your old narratives and beliefs the frustration is coming from. When you own your feelings as your own, you free yourself from living at the mercy of other people's actions. And when you own your feelings as your own, you free your child from needing to be someone they aren't, just to "make you" happy.
When you approach parenting from a place of taking ownership for how you are contributing to your moment-to-moment experience of life, you create a beautiful space in which your child can be seen and known for all of their unique brilliance.
As you cultivate the lifelong practice of loving and seeing your self, you give your child the beautiful gift of learning to do that for themselves, too.
And THAT is what parenting is all about. It's how you teach them, through your own actions and conversations, what it means to be a resilient, reflective, and resourceful human, perfectly imperfect and aware that they are worthy of love and belonging.